“Older,” a short piece of memoir writing was created nearly fourteen years ago. The senior center it refers to still exists, but our community has a newer and extremely large senior facility to accommodate a growing generation of Boomers and others oldsters. Nevertheless, it’s a fun memory from when I thought I was old.
“Encouragement can provide people with strength to look ahead, move forward, and reach for the next goal. The whole emotional tone
The search for the joy of aging gratefully is ever-present.
I visualize a basket, a cornucopia of sorts, overflowing with
My youth was characterized by an outgoing, annoyingly loud personality. Many considered me forthright, mostly blunt. You knew what to
In a recent episode of Kelly Corrigan’s PBS program, Tell Me More, the topic was listening with dignity. Kelly interviewed
It’s a known fact that walking, just 15 minutes a day, can improve our health as we age. We’ve heard
It used to be that sociologists could predict most of the needs of an aging population based on its size
Even as a busy person, I can get bored from time to time To me, boredom is not that
It’s easy to see the value of children playing games. Games teach kids to do all kinds of activities as
We all have insecurities – regardless of age or background.
Many of us have insecurities related specifically to being older. We
Modernization means change.
Change can often translate into chaos for older adults who are more set in their ways. We’ve finally
My friend, Lauren, wrote recently with a concern: “I’ve been feeling so stressed and fearful about not having enough time
One of the benefits of being older is that we’re wiser. Our life experiences have made us experts in myriad
There is no dignity in anger.
These are powerful words that might have saved me a lot of angst had I
This title phrase is heard more and more these days.
“What are you doing this weekend?”
“Where are you
The New Year is traditionally when diet advertisers flood media with solutions to being fat. We get regaled with promises
There’s happiness and joy and fulfilling work. There are friends and loving family members and acquaintances that spark the best
Nancy saved up for months to shower her granddaughter, Caroline, with the gifts and toys she knew she wanted. Living
This time of year is resplendent with gratitude and giving and love and sharing.
Gratitude is the cornerstone of giving
Whenever I see questions or statements about “old age” on social media, I follow the thread and see what the
I’m a beginner at getting old. That doesn’t mean I’m young old. I’m on the cusp of old old traditionally
Do you cringe every time you see a social media post that turns into a huge attack on the people who
We could ask… Can there ever be too much love brought to a heart that is broken because of loss…
I’m caught up on knee jerk reactions.
I’m caught up on wasting time with negative people.
I’m caught up on
Ask Google to identify the most dynamic senior citizens of our time and you’ll get a detailed list, with pictures,
It’s true that we become more fragile as we age. Both our physical capabilities and mental acumen deteriorate over time
When we think of intimacy, we think of partners, that person we wish to be intimate with. Intimacy is a
What you put out as the experience of your life is what you’ve put in to create that experience. If
Crying is one of the most powerful forms of communication. The tears crying produces speak to others and they speak
Do you feel more fear lately or do you experience a stronger sense of conquering it in most aspects of your
Independence to an older person is often very different than it is to a young or middle-aged person. There is
If given the opportunity, are there parts of your life you’d do over?
To indulge in a daydream of “What-ifs” doesn’t
It’s a foregone conclusion that telling someone they aren’t good enough is hurtful to them. It also goes without saying
Remember when you were 15 or 16 and, for the first time, you asserted yourself on personal taste and choices
If you could write a book about how to thrive in an uncertain world, it’d be a best seller for sure.
Talk therapy can be life-changing. Talking to a therapist provides a safe place to work through issues that are bothering
For some people, their proudest moments during the pandemic are that they got up and out of bed each day.
One year ago most of us began lockdown, and I was able to get my last professional haircut only because
For many, spring came early this year. A change in leadership, expanding vaccine distribution – shots in arms – blossomed,
I received my second COVID vaccine shot yesterday, and I am grateful. A wave of emotions flowed through me as
Let’s begin at today.
It’s been a rough few years, and people my age are simultaneously patting themselves on the back
Phew! It’s been a year that we’ve been cooped up and unable to get out and spread our wings. Most of
As my 73rd birthday rounds the bend, I’ve been reflecting on where I’ve been in my personal happiness and growth and
All year long, 2020 has been billed as the worst year ever! No one can recall a more horrid time
It’s time to get over it and move on. I did NOT say: don’t care, don’t be involved, or don’t
During the last year, it has felt like the entire world was at war. That’s not hyperbole.
It has been,
This past weekend, with nearly 500 posts online, The Joy of Aging Gratefully turned eight. The content, which has focused
Today is all about voting. You’re going to see it wherever you turn: via conversations with friends and family,
In fourteen days, US citizens will be voting in the most contentious election in nearly a hundred years. In actuality,
We see the need for compromise everywhere. We also see the abyss that looms large between what I want or
Regardless of party affiliation, there was lots to love and admire in Ruth Bader Ginsburg. She fought for the rights
What makes you feel good? Do you have “go to” friends or activities that can ground you peaceably … quickly? When
If ever there was a more apt title for this period of time, it’s this one. I didn’t really know what
Is your life returning to normal? If so, how and by how much? While we seniors no longer have kids
I’ve been traveling a lot lately.
And yet my suitcase remains safely stashed in the storage room, and my pet sitter’s face
The man charged through the front door of the restaurant and dodged diners as he ran to the back, into
Last year at this time, during the days leading to July 4th, I was thinking of a much different freedom,
We can hold our breath until all that is happening around us passes. This too shall pass. It will pass,
A grim milestone was reached last Wednesday: 100,000 deaths in the United States due to the coronavirus. We knew this
It’s been said that baby boomers have been blasé about the current pandemic. Oh, hell no! I don’t know a
Over the coming weeks and months as our world begins to return to its much-maligned hustle and bustle, we are going
Seriously? I got nothing!
I sort of snapped when I read about the guy who ran a marathon in his apartment during
I’m hearing that when this deadly virus is a thing in our rearview mirrors, some of the lingering behavior adopted during
Patterns are beginning to develop.
Rod (one of only three people I’m allowing into my home these days) is coming over
Before there was OK, Boomer, there was Don’t trust anyone over thirty.
OK, Boomer is something young people say to old
“How do you feel about it?”
“Is that really true?”
All good questions. Sometimes difficult questions because we’re afraid to answer, or
We find ourselves at a time in history in which a significant majority of candidates currently running for president are
It’s been said that courage is the greatest of all virtues, because if you don’t have courage, you won’t have
Birthdays are like your own personal national holiday: the one day a year when people acknowledge your importance to
How many times since mid-October did you hear, “The holidays already??? It seems like only yesterday….” In addition to Christmas,
Pets are that thing for me.
That thing that keeps me grounded in the need to stay well, to be responsible
That thing that swirls around us all year, every year, without regard for the time of year, is gratitude and
Here we are; we’re on the verge of the holidays and the most intense part of the year and all
Today The Joy of Aging Gratefully is celebrating its seventh year in existence. Congratulations!
I’m so proud of this little space where
It’s free, informative, funny, educational, and, in general, can add a real kick in your senior tush if you choose
Autumn began officially yesterday and lots of wonderful things happen in the fall. Here are a few of my favorite changes
When was the last time you had a doctor ask, “What did you eat yesterday? What is the food you
As elders, we are in the afternoon of life.
I prefer this distinction over being in the “winter” or “final
A piece of ooey-gooey pecan pie … and then another. A perfectly prepared dirty martini, or two. A fun
Our pets get sick and our tires go flat. We argue with spouses, kids, and co-workers. Someone talks smack about
One of the more surprising things I’ve learned about aging is that older people are generally happier than younger ones.
As we age, certain things fade from our consciousness, out of necessity or because we’re no longer interested. For instance,
In the TV commercial, they walk into the dealership to pick up a part for his car. His sister, who
I’m always looking for ideas for blog posts. Every week or so when I’m killing a few minutes before heading
Do you remember the series finale of Mad Men years ago where Don Draper is sitting cross-legged on a hill in
I preach a lot about gratitude, about making it a part of your daily life. Meditating, giving money, and
You stopped inviting her to lunch because she never reaches out to you. You’re always the one to suggest time
I recently went through a pretty tough time. All within a week, my precious Kali kitty needed surgery; I received
A few days ago, I didn’t finish my daily allotted one delicious cup of coffee that I lovingly prepare every
Valentine’s Day is day after tomorrow.
As a senior citizen, I think of Valentine’s Day in terms of love for all
When was the last time you thought or said out loud, “This is hopeless”? Was it on a morning when
Martin Luther King, Jr. would have been 90 years old today.
This speech was given to inspire a congregation of graduating
For the third year in a row, I find myself saying, “Gee, I hope this year will be better than
Whether you celebrate Christmas, Hanukkah, Kwanzaa, or another holiday next Tuesday, there’s many ways to guarantee the day will be
If the holiday season that you envision hasn’t unfolded, you’ll have to create it for yourself.
No one is going to
Today I let go of control – of trying to make Thanksgiving and all these holidays turn out
As a general rule, I don’t take life too seriously. I am very much at home with the absurd
The Tubbs Fire started near Tubbs Lane in Calistoga around 9:43 p.m. on Sunday, October 8, 2017.
During those moments, three
Aging in place means soaking in the feel of my kitty’s warmth next to me as I sleep. It means
Seventeen years ago today, on a Tuesday, at 6:59 a.m. Pacific Time, the first Tower fell. I was at work
One of the surest ways to keep peace and happiness at bay is to surround yourself with grumblers. You may
It’s not just kids who struggle with attention deficit issues.
At the ripe age of 70, I find I’m having more
This week at church we talked about home, and what home meant to us. Even before thoughts formed in my
Time is one commodity I treasure.
As we trudge through the years, time becomes more valuable. In spite of complaining that
Currently we are watching ourselves being subjected to perhaps the most purposely divisive politics ever at the national level. We
Current political upheaval aside, I feel fairly optimistic about my future. Sure, I’m somewhat concerned about my okay health, about
When I was a teenager, my parents and grandparents lamented that the “younger generation” was going to hell in a
Each day approximately 10,000 baby boomers turn 65! That’s a staggering number when you consider the impact this aging population
“Ageism is everywhere,” says 77-year -old cultural critic Margaret Morganroth Gullette. “And the ageisms go from insults that may be laughable
Recently I spoke about joy and how it’s often absent from our lives here. As elders we’re faced with physical
Coffee or tea? And make that beverage hot or cold? Burgundy, navy or gray bathrobe? Work a little or play
Here in the Northern Hemisphere Spring 2018 arrived one week ago.
Ahhh, spring! New buds on lush plants and trees. Thoughts
Sometimes I forget what brings me true joy.
And when joy is present, it feels fleeting, and I feel the need
If you’re nearing retirement you’ve undoubtedly heard the point of view that it’s best to wait to take advantage of
Whether you are in a relationship and are planning a special dinner, or you are single and arranging a girl’s
Recently I took a little trip around the World Wide Web. And, while it was difficult to dodge and weave
When I went through surgery for a heel spur, I felt uncomfortable discussing the condition due to feelings of disdain
Senior citizens are special; we have special needs. You can’t just stick us in front of the TV like a
Are you going to wait until your politician is in office? Are you going to put off deciding until the
When you haven’t gotten a reply to the e-mail you sent an hour ago, do you think about calling the
Buy a coffin. Put the coffin in your living room. Fill the coffin with clothes that don’t fit, books you’ll never read,
I really, really dislike shopping and, as we head into the busiest shopping time of the year, let me remind
What is your prayer for today?
Most prayer is a request that seeks to stimulate a desired result. Some prayer acknowledges
There is lots to look past these days to get to a place of joy and contentment.
The current political
As many of you know, The Joy of Aging Gratefully is authored by someone who lives in the heart of
Mr. Rogers gently guided us to always look for the helpers when catastrophe occurs, “because if you look for the helpers,
It’s time to admit that I’ve been in chronic pain for the last five years with leg achiness and weakness
Ahhhhhh … September … the official beginning of fall, the time when kids are settling back into school, the roads
Radio waves create energy. Light waves create energy. Vibrations of these waves allows us to see and hear. Is there
We eat right and exercise. We meditate and actively participate in spiritual activities that feed our soul. Despite our best
I’ve been scolded on social media for complaining about something the reader considered “a first world problem.” In other words,
On a recent Sunday I heard a talk in which author/coach/lecturer/philanthropist David Ault said, “We begin hospice the day we
I write all the time about doing for others as a way of improving our own lives. Generally, as elders
In 2007, the Princeton economist Alan Krueger and Nobel Laureate Daniel Kahneman published a paper called Are We Having More Fun
I am what I think, and I never mind being reminded of that fact.
Where I put my energy and attention
When I see an animal in pain — on TV or the Internet — I look away. It’s hard for
We live in interesting times, which means that we live in challenging times. Of course, there are always challenges present,
I’m always on the lookout for tools that will improve my life – tools that are low-cost or free, legal,
A Short Story
My spiritual home conducted an interfaith service in January, the day after marches blanketed the United States and
I went to a movie recently and it made me cry. The crying caught me off guard. It wasn’t a
“To believe in something, and not to live it, is dishonest.”
I’ve talked before about the power
Some of the most treasured and highly anticipated time I have is the time I spend in solitude. During my
Want to ramp up your happiness level? These are six things that work for me:
Music moves me. Classical music
How can we be surprised and aghast at what is happening?
Trump has said repeatedly, almost daily, since early last summer
Cold hard cash, money in the bank or stashed in a box behind some books, a large brokerage account, an
Bucket lists are meant to include those lofty experiences we want but most likely will never attain — or so
Living a joyous life is a choice.
We can choose to live in joy or we can choose to live in
Like everyone else, I’m in the thick of the holidays and all that entails.
I’m reflecting; reflecting on what the holidays
It’s official! The holiday season is underway. Get your orthotic shoes ready and your wallets fluffed up.
It’s during these couple
It was a small square card table abutting the end of the massive oval table in the dining room. It
Let’s say there are five basic emotions in life: joy, anger, love, fear and sadness.
Wouldn’t you agree these cover most
Some of us welcome our alone time and some fear it as the widest expanse of emptiness we have to
A lot is written about senior citizens in our communities. Often, those opinions are made by non-seniors who judge our
You know the feeling of hanging on, of enduring difficult or uncomfortable situations, and sometimes these situations go on for
I’m finding as I move through the aging process that my role models are many. I’m particularly attracted to people
Ever had one of those days when you’re scattered, unable to accomplish anything, irritable, and upset with yourself? Compare that
Facebook is a great place to go to connect with friends and family. It is a great place to read
How many of us have settled in for a bit of social media engagement, only to find out something like
We’re in the dog days of summer, and I’m wondering what you, my friends, are up to. It’s not possible
Every day when I begin my perusal of the New York Times, I page to the obits first, expertly skirting the
My husband was a police officer for forty-plus years and, since retiring, has volunteered at a local hospital. Both jobs,
If I’d been a horse, they would have shot me by now. Lots can be told about the total health
Whenever I say “I don’t care,” you can pretty much bet I do care, and deeply, about whatever I am
Have you ever heard of the Zen Buddhist term “wabi sabi”? I hadn’t until recently. I found the definition in Leonard
Souped up muscle cars, 380’s bored out to 401’s, low riders, and classic Mustangs, GTO’s, and Chevy’s. One thing lots
It’s easy to convince myself that I’ve grown to be a much better person than my mother ever was. But
Did you do something new today, something you’ve never done before? Did your feet walk on a piece of the
The other morning, I woke up and, as always, headed straight for my office. When I flipped on the light
Can you imagine living in a house the size of your current bedroom? I’m talking about sleeping quarters, kitchen, bathroom,
You have everything you need to create a wonderful last part of your life, whether you have two months or
How do you feel when you read an article that says, “Look stylish in your 30s, 40s, 50s, and, yes, even
It’s the end of January and the season for giving is over. We can quit thinking of ways to share
We’re in the thick of the awards shows for 2016. I mention this not because I’m here to critique gala
I was out running errands for most of the afternoon today and noticed that things were different around town. Businesses
We may all procrastinate or fear change, but we all have the capacity to change. And no matter how uncomfortable
Antonia at Thanksgiving dinner: “Pass that big bowl of gratitude, will you? And, after that, I’ll take the main course
If you’re like me, music from your younger days always lifts your spirits and takes you out of the everyday
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Baby you can drive my car! Despite jokes to the contrary, senior drivers are historically safer drivers than young people.
What if you only had 24 hours to do the things you want, see the people and places you are
It was one of those ordinary, totally forgettable days.
Sal was at a print shop trying to pick up an order.
Do you have this problem?
You’re with a friend, and all of a sudden there’s a momentary lapse in the conversation.
“Well, you’re not 25.” This is what my young orthopedic doctor said as he glanced
I always wanted to age gracefully, to be regal like the grand dames and the
[This is an outstanding post by Dr. Shemsi Prinzivalli that didn’t lend itself to being
It’s why I whine and moan from time to time about being overwhelmed. It’s why I
When I read recently that Warren Buffett drinks at least 5 12-oz servings of Coca
I was intrigued by a recent NY Times story of a 115 year old woman in
While I believe in the innate kindness of human beings and while I trust they
I was inching along in bumper-to-bumper traffic on a
Each New Year I choose a quality that will be the focus of my
All year long I focus on the happiness and abundance in my life. Every morning
“Should” is one word I think should be eliminated from our vocabulary. Oops, guess that
Who is the oldest person you know? What are they like? Are they cranky
What does pain do to my overall well-being … besides the obvious, that is? When I stub
Have you ever spent days ruminating over something you did in the past or on a decision you made
Disclaimer: I will start off by saying that, in spite of the title of this post, I am well
As September rolls into October a whole new crop of reality TV programs will begin soliciting our time and
It’s fun to get a glimpse of how majestically simple life can be. These ten spiritual life lessons have,
Right after our Northern California earthquake:
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UnitedHealthCare recently conducted a study with centenarians, those people 100 years and older, along with a companion survey of
As we age I believe our sense of freedom and all the implications of freedom are heightened. Perhaps this
About a year ago I wrote this piece on forgiveness, right after the incident at the Boston marathon. The
I’ve had friends say something like, “When I look at you I don’t see your size, I see a
A certain momentum is created when something is shared in a public forum. It is my decision to share
Sometimes saying “All is well,” doesn’t quite cut it for me. Say what, you gasp? Wasn’t it just a
I thought I gave up smoking years ago when, in addition to the obvious health risks, if you continued
Have you ever noticed how a person is talked about while they’re alive compared to what is said about them after they’ve
What will you give up for Lent this year? What will you deny yourself?
It has become almost
One of the most significant comforts all throughout the last five years of my life has been my spiritual
There were a couple of reasons why I never had children. The main reason was that I wasn’t able
Here comes another one of those subjects I’ve resisted talking about. I’m nervous about what the smartest, most articulate way to
1. Promise Positive Self-Talk
I wonder if we all truly know that we
An Alternate Approach
Are you busy today, between getting ready for tonight’s festivities and making the ritual list of resolutions
Here is a poignant commentary on the real gifts of Christmas from last year.
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I’ve been moping around the last few years blithering about being the only member left of my family of
Wayne Dyer speaks of abundance. Oprah also has expounded on the subject over the years. These two as well
The Subject of I
I read somewhere that the first-person pronoun is a mighty tool, and that I should use
“You don’t write, you don’t call.” To this statement you can now add “you don’t e-mail, you don’t text,
I’m a cat person…you know this. You might even have seen more than enough of my tripod, Kali. But
Before moving on to Year Two of Antonia’s Senior Moments, I wanted to once again thank you, the readers,
October is National Breast Cancer Awareness Month. The National Cancer Institute estimates that:
Did you know that humans are the only animals whose brains are known to atrophy as we get older?
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The one year anniversary of Antonia’s Senior Moments is just around the corner, and it’s because of you, the
What I Love About Fall
I wonder if what I love about fall, you love about fall. I’m not a
I’m posting this because of it’s beauty and because of the awe that it creates in my heart. At
One of my favorite authors is Mark Nepo. Mark, born February 23, 1951 in Brooklyn, New York, is
As peculiar as this might sound, I was recently inspired by the selection of lettuce at the supermarket: Boston
Is there ever a time when what you need to shift your mood is just a good laugh? Have
Another one of my flash fiction/memoir pieces, this one appropriate for the holiday. I hope you enjoy!
I hate to admit I haven’t completely bought into the whole global warming
issue over the years. Do I
There are a few things I could have done when I was younger that I don’t think I could
I love writing flash fiction/memoir. Here’s one of my very short pieces from a few years ago that you might enjoy:
Read these funny examples of momentary memory lapses and see if you can relate to any of them:
One thing for sure: I learn lots by writing this blog. A couple of weeks ago, several news sources reported,
I’ve got to talk about money. That’s what I thought when I read this article in the US News
As a Californian, I view change the same as being in one of our frequent earthquakes where the ground underneath me
Some people feel the American system of government is broken because of our obsession with Constitutional obedience.
Are you ready to forgive Lance Armstrong for doping or Charlie Sheen for ranting or the Boston marathon bombers?
Ok, let’s just say it: school killings in Newtown (and elsewhere), horrific fires such as the fertilizer plant in
Retirement and being a senior citizen is all about relaxing and enjoying life more. It’s time to quit sweating
March is a tricky month for me. While spring officially starts March 20th and signals new buds on plants
During the year my friend Kristie and I try to see the movies that have been nominated for Best Picture of
It’s often been speculated that February was the month when most suicides are committed. Now, that’s a
Have you ever heard of Pinterest? If so, do you think it’s just one more thing that you
Merry Christmas everyone! I wish for you a joyous day with family and friends, a day filled abundantly with
If you’re a senior citizen like me, you know what’s coming when you hear or see the phrase `You know