I always wanted to age gracefully, to be regal like the grand dames and the likes of Audrey Hepburn, Grace Kelly and Lauren Bacall. I even named my latest book Golden Grace to reinforce how I viewed getting older. As I age, I picture myself being calm, self-assured and statuesque, which at 5’3″ and shrinking is going to be a real magic act to pull off.
Then I read “Goddesses Never Age: The Secret Prescription for Radiance, Vitality, and Well-Being,” by Dr. Christine Northrup. Her approach to aging is more about the attitude than the actual age. “Age is just a number, and agelessness means not buying into the idea that a number determines everything from your state of health to your attractiveness to your value,” she writes.
What she’s talking about is re-framing the experience of moving through time, so that as we grow older we can step out of these age-based associations that can keep us in a cage.
I really got it when she said,”…aging with attitude means getting older with full access to your life force, to your passions, to your soul. It means growing older with all of you intact, and living from the dictates of your soul. It means knowing what’s worth getting riled up about and what isn’t. Aging with attitude means aging with full capacity to experience and know your own value.”
Part of what Dr. Northrup is sharing is that we need to let go. We need to give up being isolated, being grumpy, being a victim because of our age. We need to find solutions to those problems regardless of whether we’re 25 or 80!
So here’s my challenge to you
Does the number of your age define you? Or can you truly be ageless by grasping and nurturing your passions and your soul and reversing the tide of spiritual deterioration that is often associated with getting older?
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